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Words Are Important

I’ve written about this before.
In the movie, “Brother Sun; Sister Moon,” there is a line spoken by the character of St. Francis that goes something like, “Words. I used to believe in words.” The implied meaning being that words no longer have meaning to him.
While, in the context of that story I can see what that screenwriter was trying to do, elevate action above mere talk, I find that I can’t necessarily agree with the sentiment.

Words are important.
They convey meaning from speaker to hearer.
Words can start and end wars.
They can also sooth and calm those who are distressed.

So, I place a great deal of importance on words.
As a wannabe Wordsmith, I try to choose the appropriate words and fashion them in such a way that the idea I am trying to communicate is done with clarity and meaning.

I know that it’s hard in this day of Instant Messaging and e-mail to put much stock in clear communication. We want to hit that ‘Send’ button as quickly as possible. It’s our texting version of trying to get a word in “edge-wise.” We want to make sure that ours is the last word spoken. After all, our own opinion is the best and most important.

It concerns me, then, how those to whom we look for information and enlightenment are so bad at using Words. (Yeah, I’m looking at you @BetsyKling! “Nother” is NOT a word!)
We have become a semi-literate culture that emasculates the language. Then, we wonder why we are misunderstood.

I admit that I don’t always get words right. I may choose one that is not clear in meaning. I may string together sentences that don’t make sense.
That doesn’t mean that I don’t see the importance of clear communication.

That brings me to the actual topic of this post.
(Yeah, I know, you are all waiting for me to make a real point. Here it comes.)

Yesterday, I received the preliminary results of a CT Scan that I had done last week.
The docs wanted to see if the cancer in my colon had spread, or metastasized, to any other part of my body.
The report reads, ” NO DEFINITE METASTATIC DISEASE IN THE ABDOMEN OR PELVIS.”

At first blush, this is a beautiful statement. The cancer is still contained in the original location. Cool! Let’s go in there and pull that sucker out!
Let’s do it NOW!!!

But, our language is strange sometimes.
Look closely at the above statement from the report.

What, exactly, does “DEFINITE” mean?
To me, that’s a qualifier.
It tells me that there may, in fact, BE some kind of spreading that they simply are not able confirm definitively.

See how words work?

I really wish that they would have written, “No Metastatic Disease Present.”
Or, even, Yes, there is evidence of it.

Now, my mind is thrust back into the land of Not Knowing.

Maybe this is normal for people who are diagnosed with a disease like cancer.
Our minds may simply kick into gear and continually ask, “But, what if?”

I guess we’ll find out for sure soon.
I meet with a surgeon later this week to determine what next steps must be taken.

Until then, I guess there’s no definite resolution to this.

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4 Comments

  1. Sarah Sarah

    Further evidence of the degeneration of our language-smh.
    Yeah I picked up on the “definite” word too, not a fan!

  2. Ken. Urbansky Ken. Urbansky

    Morning Mike. Glad you got the ‘kind-of’ good news. I hope that they can confirm that your cancer is in fact contained. I found that the in-between time is the hardest. Waiting to get the result of the latest scan. Waiting for blood work results. Waiting to hear the doctor’s words. Then waiting to see if those words are actually true. I’ve come to sincerely appreciate and even love several of my doctors, and I am absolutely sure that they have done everything they can for me. But cancer is one nasty disease. Even words as clear as “we got it all” will leave you waiting till next year’s scan to see if it came back. I.certainly don’t qualify as someone who can offer advice, but I believe that learning to let my mind rest and be at peace in between scans, tests, and doctor visits has been my greatest victory. Hoping the same for you my friend.

    • mhelbert mhelbert

      It’s hard accepting this as the new Normal. I’m sure that once we get moving on this and I do need to anticipate the next scan or test things will settle a bit.
      I appreciate you sharing your experience.

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